Fix resolve_extends crash when an extends target has dependents

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Bug

resolve_extends() can crash with:

AttributeError: 'set' object has no attribute 'extend'

when a service that is the target of an extends: is also depended on by another service (see #1507).

Root cause

flat_deps(services, with_extends=True) (added in a recent commit for the podman-compose down dependents fix) populates a "_dependents" set on every service that has a dependent.

resolve_extends() already strips the internal "_deps" set from the extends: source before merging it into the extending service (del from_service["_deps"]), specifically so rec_merge doesn't try to merge two of these internal sets together. It never got the same treatment for the newer "_dependents" field.

So whenever both:

• the extends: source service has a "_dependents" entry (something depends on it), and
• the extending service itself also has a "_dependents" entry (something depends on it too),

...rec_merge_one() ends up trying to merge two set values via value.extend(value2) (which only works for lists), and crashes.

Minimal repro (three services: app extends base, app depends on base, and app2 depends on app - so both base and app end up with _dependents):

services:
  base:
    image: busybox
  app:
    extends:
      service: base
    depends_on:
      - base
  app2:
    image: busybox
    depends_on:
      - app

Fix

Strip "_dependents" from the extends: source the same way "_deps" already is, before merging - it gets recomputed correctly by the flat_deps(services) call that already runs right after resolve_extends() returns, so nothing is lost.

Testing

• Added tests/unit/test_resolve_extends_dependents.py, reproducing the exact crash from AttributeError: 'set' object has no attribute 'extend' #1507 via normalize/flat_deps/resolve_extends directly. Confirmed it fails with the reported AttributeError against main (verified by stashing the fix) and passes with the fix applied.
• Full suite: python -m unittest discover tests/unit - 462 tests, all passing.
• ruff format --check / ruff check: clean.
• mypy podman_compose.py: same 2 pre-existing errors as on main (unrelated to this change - a Python-version config warning and a pre-existing index-type error at a different line); no new errors introduced.
• pylint podman_compose.py: 9.98/10, same pre-existing findings as on main, none on the changed lines.
• Added a newsfragment (fix-extends-dependents-set-merge.bugfix) per CONTRIBUTING.md.

Fixes #1507.